In this part of the world, especially Nigeria, no matter how pretty and career oriented a lady is, when she gets to a certain age yet unmarried, the pressure to get married is mounted on her by parents (mothers especially) as well as the society who places negative stigmas on unmarried ladies.
This is the period when frustration and circumstances usually coerce many of them into considering men that are below their class or status.
Without wasting time, below are the categories of men ladies normally consider as husbands out of martial pressure.
1. Conductors/Vulcanizers/ Okada Men
In as much as I don't want to discriminate against these categories of people, the urge to get married borne out of impatience sometimes make educated ladies consider men that are below their class or status. When their friends and younger ones are already married, they become uncomfortable at home and will do anything to make sure they also leave their parents house too. This urge sometimes lead them into the hands of danfo drivers, vulcanizers, okada men, etc
2. Promiscuous Men/ Baby Daddies
Many will agree with Tosyne2much that most arrogant ladies usually become so cold and humble when they are due for marriage. This is the period of humility when they treat men with fairness and wouldn't hesitate to give listening ears to guys they would have bashed when they were still the hottest girls in town. This is when pride is thrown to the wind and will embrace any man that shows interest in them. They may consider baby daddies/ polygamous men, in a bid to bear the status of married women
3. Thugs/ Area Boys
This may sound funny, but it's very true. We have seen cases when ladies usually go for men that are below their class or status due to due the fact that they have chased good guys away out of ignorance and insatiable desires. When they are getting aged and no guy is proposing, they see any man as husband material not minding if he's below their class. They may consider thugs or area boys as husbands out of the marital pressures.
4. Stingy Men
As we all know that most ladies, if not all, ladies have stingy men and will never consider them as husbands but when too much peer pressures and intimidation set in, that's when fate recommend husbands for them. Even if they find men that have PhDs in stinginess, they will embrace him. This is just to bear the status of "being married" and start their family too.
5. Abroad Based Guys
Most ladies that are overdue for marriage are usually obsessed with abroad based guys and may use fetish means to bring these men home. At this stage, they become very active on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram just to increase their chances of finding future partners . They accept request from random men and are quick to give out their contacts. This is due to the fact that they stand a chance to travel abroad if these men marry them.
6. Men with Low Financial Status
When a lady is due for marriage, her perception about marriage changes and she stops talking about her disgust for broke men. This is the period when they no longer talk about elaborate wedding and aso ebi, and are ready to start from the scratch with a man. This reminds me of a lady, out of martial pressures, wanted to lure me (Tosyne2much) to bed and trap me down with pregnancy, despite the fact that that she knows that I can't boast of one square meal a day let alone feed another woman.
7. Over-aged men
Some parents (mothers) are not helping matters and will frustrate the hell out of their daughters to marry a rich and wealthy man who has spoken to them about their interest in their daughters. They force their daughters to marry this men for selfish reasons even if these men are Buhari's age grade.
8. Men with SmallJoysticks
Many may laugh at this, but believe me, it's the very true. Sometimes, ladies consider settling down with men with tiny joysticks or men who can't even last up to thirty seconds in bed , unlike before that they ridicule and discriminate against men that are not good in bed. These ladies will always say that they will sex is not food, so, it shouldn't be a criteria for choosing a man.
9. Uneducated Men
Most educated ladies always want their men to be more educated than them but things like this no longer counts when the urge to get married is being heaped on them. At this point, they wouldn't mind settling down with a man even if has a degree in "Lion Rearing" or "Snake Hunting". Even if the guy is a drop out, they will say that love is all that matters not a degree.
10. Gamblers/ Football Bet Addicts (Virtual, aja n sare, 1960, Baba Ijebu, etc)
Despite the stereotype ladies place on men that are bet addicts, some ladies may even consider these men as husbands out of martial frustration. They hold firmly unto these men with the hope that he will one day will millions and send these bet companies packing.
Ladies, please make hay while the sun shines. Playing kites good men will later haunt you. Don't treat men rudely because you think you've got so many toasters. If you do, you may find yourself in any of these categories
I drop my pen at this juncture
Feel free to add yours
Written by: Tosyne2much
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